Exit Difficulties

In a give-and-take exchange over one parent’s efforts to exit her daughter, we see how difficult it can be for some parents (City Data).

The mother (Pll) says:

“Why is there so much red tape connected to pulling a child out of the IEP program? Maybe a educator can answer this for me. Does the school get extra money from the government? Are they afraid of getting sued by a parent if the child drops out?”

A teacher (bigcats) replies:

“I’m not sure what your situation is, and I don’t know much about the financial side of things either..as a teacher, I would be reluctant to have a student who had an IEP stop having one unless they really seemed ready for that….I also would feel frustrated if there were some problem (speech, learning disability, etc.) that made it difficult for me to teach that child without additional services, yet those services were refused and I was held accountable for the student’s lack of success.”

Another (hey teach) teacher:

“I’m an educator and it doesn’t seem to be that difficult for a parent to remove their child from a Special Ed program. Yes, we do try to discourage such a move, because if the child did not need assistance, they would not be in the program in the first place. If a parent is determined to not allow their child to receive services, an IEP meeting is held, documenting all reasoning and opinions of both parents and teachers and then the parent signs their child out.”

Another (frogin4colorado) teacher:

“Yes, students who have an IEP bring in extra money for the school. This typically happens around Dec 1. Two, you are part of the team and you can deny services. The sped team will inform you of what could happen if no support is provided. After all is said and done, you can still deny services. But please be sure that it is what is best for your child before you do so. Can you get into the classroom and observe?

The mother (Pll) replies:

… My child has struggled with immaturity issues and is finally making great progress this year. I think the 1/2 hour a day (4 days per week) she spent in IEP would be better spent with her class. Yikes, I had to have two meetings with 6 faculty members before they would let me release her. Even though they started the first meeting showing papers and stats her great progress.

She adds:

“My daughter requested to be able to be with her class instead of leaving for four 1/2 sessions a week for resource (3 half hour sessions for math and 1 half hour for speech). She said she has been embarrassed and didn’t like being away from her new classmates.

[At a new school]. In the meeting yesterday I was surprised when the ‘team’ suggested waiting until December (or longer) so they can watch her progress since she is attending a new school this year. I said no and that I wanted to honor her request to be with her new classmates…

The ‘team’ wasn’t happy which was confusing to me because they just finished telling me how good she was doing! This is why I was wondering if there is money attached to resource or protocol that they don’t want to deal with…?

Another parent (LA_Parents) reports her experience:

…I want to get my son out of IEP and his teacher/school won’t let me. He is 5 1/2 yrs old now in Sp ed. Kindergarten.

This all started when my son was 3 1/2 yrs old. His speech was delayed. So we went through IEP process and had eligibility for
developmental delay. He did not learn much from school, but we worked with him and after a year, he was at a point comparable to other kids of his age.

We thought that he would get out of IEP. But to our surprise, during annual IEP, he was recommended for one more year in sp ed Kindergarten. In the IEP meeting we asked them what is it that other kids of his age can do and my son cannot ? But the IEP team did not listen to us….

Also, my son switched to another school in september , where his IEP continued. The new school said that we do not have a chance to evaluate the child and need more time to decide. Until then he will continue with his IEP…

…We have been working with my son. And I can tell, he is comparable or better kids of his age. He doesn’t have to be in sp ed. But the school has been giving indications that he will continue in sp ed next year in 1st grade as well. I have been frustrated. My son does not need sp ed. The school just needs kids in sp ed to get their funding….”

Another (wsop) parent reports:

“… In my case the school district was pushing for an autism dx, probably for the funding. At the same time they were not offering services such as speech, OT, etc., but wanted to place him in a self contained classroom, and in fact were insisting on this! Who wins in this situation? My son was and is totally capable of being educated in a typical classroom with his typical peers, but they wanted all the funding that comes with an autism dx and the cheapest route for them was to stick him in a self contained. Sounds like a barrier to learning to me.”

Another parent (marylee54):

…finally got my son out of special ed. Basically, you can take them out anytime. Request a dismissal ARD that’s what the D in ARD stands for Dismissal. Write up something to the effect that you request to discontinue any further special ed services.

They didn’t like it, tried to keep the IEP open with modifications, yadda, yadda, but I stood my ground. legally, they can’t force your kid onto a program without your consent, although they try to make you think they can.

My son was diagnosed with ADHD, which I doubt, and placed in Spec Ed about 3 years ago. His school experience has been negative since then. he detests being pulled out for “resources” it was affecting his peer relationships, and basically benefiting the school via funding, and giving the teachers an excuse for not teaching him….”

(We’ve edited comments for focus and readability. There are more interesting comments to read at City Data.Com.)

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